Reader,

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This week’s podcast is really special to me.
Because Wes joins me in the studio to celebrate our wedding anniversary—and to talk about the love you see between us.

You might have seen the surprise Wes planned for me—it’s a video that’s now been viewed almost 12 million times on Instagram.
(We’re reposting it today on the Connection Codes Instagram if you haven't seen it yet! Click here to watch)

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One of the top comments we keep getting is:
👉 "I hope I find this love."

It’s such a beautiful sentiment.
But it also got Wes and me thinking.

Yes, we found each other.
Two people willing to invest, learn, and grow.
(And honestly, that’s a huge part of the battle.)

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But the love you see today?​
We didn’t find it.
​We cultivated it. 🌱

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We showed up for the hard conversations.
We kept talking, even when it felt messy.
We sat on therapy couches.
We learned to process our emotions using the Core Emotion Wheel.
We didn’t stop—even when we were exhausted by life.

We kept going.

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During our anniversary dinner, Wes asked me a vulnerable question:
👉 “What’s the hardest part of marriage for you at this stage?”

We both share our answers on this week’s podcast. And it's raw. And real.

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I’m more clear than ever on this truth:

💬 When you get married, you have no idea what you’re actually saying yes to.
💬 You have no idea who you’re truly saying yes to—because we all grow and change.

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I’m not the same woman Wes married.
Not even close.
But instead of resisting who I became, Wes chose to grow with me.

He chose to keep digging in.
He chose to keep connecting.

He pushed us to enroll in Foundations and kept showing up to process even when it felt painful.
He said yes—not just on our wedding day—but again and again through every season.

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And that choice?
​That’s what changes everything.

🎧 Click here to listen to this week’s podcast on YouTube!​

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Or click on your favorite place to listen:

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💡 Here’s something to reflect on:

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If you’re in a relationship right now—or hoping for one someday—ask yourself:

💡 Am I ready to cultivate love, not just "find" it?​
💡 Am I willing to keep saying yes, even when it gets uncomfortable?​
💡 Am I open to growing with someone, not just wishing they’d stay the same?

The love you long for?
It’s built one small, messy, beautiful choice at a time. 💕

I can’t wait for you to hear this conversation—it’s one of my favorites we’ve ever shared.

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Let's do this.

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P.S. I’d be remiss if I didn’t take a moment to share what truly changed everything for Wes and me: the Foundations Course.

I know so many of you listen to the podcast each week (and it means the world to me!), but if the podcast has helped you even a little, I want you to know—the course goes so much deeper.​
This is where real transformation happens.

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I can still picture the exact moments burned into my memory:
💬 Sitting outside on my pink porch swing, learning about identity for the first time—when Wes shared how he gains and loses identity with me. (I had no idea.)
💬 Sitting on our bed the first time we used the Core Emotion Wheel—and Wes shared his sadness. (Again... I had no idea.)

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Foundations didn’t just improve our marriage. It gave us a completely new way to see, hear, and connect with each other.

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It took us from husband and wife to true partners.

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If you haven’t experienced it for yourself yet, this is your invitation.
We even offer a 30-day money-back guarantee—you truly have nothing to lose, and everything to gain.

​👉 Click here to learn more and get 20% off today by using the code PODCAST

I can’t wait for you to experience this kind of connection, too. ❤️

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Disclaimer: This podcast and newsletter are co-created with a marriage and family therapist, but we are not your therapist. The information shared here is for educational and informational purposes only. If you’re experiencing overwhelming emotions or need personalized support, we encourage you to seek help from a licensed therapist or counselor or a coach. Remember, your emotions matter, and asking for help is a superpower.

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