Your Connection Guide This Week in the Connection Codes Reader, Lately, I’ve been experiencing moments of intense fear—and I have a feeling I’m not alone. There’s so much happening in our country, in the world… it’s overwhelming. I try to balance how much news I consume, because I want to stay informed—but I also don’t want to drown in the sadness I feel for humans across the globe. We weren’t built for this level of exposure. We’re consuming news at a rate that our brains—and our bodies—were...
14 days ago • 3 min read
Your Connection Guide This Week in the Connection Codes Reader, There was a season in my life where I was in a really dark place. The kind of dark where I couldn’t get out of bed. Where I would lock my bedroom door, crying on the other side, while my kids knocked and called for me. But no one knew how bad it really was. I was okay showing that life was hard—but only in the way that made it palatable for other people. I laughed about it. I made jokes. I posted about the chaos of motherhood in...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
Your Connection Guide This Week in the Connection Codes Reader, For years, I didn’t realize that Wes and I were codependent. If I had a bad day with the kids, he felt guilty for not being home to help. That guilt turned into frustration, which led to him snapping at me. And suddenly—because I was struggling, now he was struggling too. And we lived in that cycle for years. If either of us had a bad day, we both had a bad day. We weren’t giving each other space to be human. Instead, we were...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
Your Connection Guide This Week in the Connection Codes Reader, I have so much desire for so many things. Maybe you do too. I want to show up for my family. I want to grow my business. I want to be a good friend, a present mom, a supportive wife. I want to grab coffee with people I love, respond to every text, and be fully available for the people who need me. And yet… I have 200 unread texts, a to-do list that never ends, and I’m constantly running from one thing to the next. My desire is...
2 months ago • 2 min read
Your Connection Guide This Week in the Connection Codes Rewiring how we relate to anger—so it fuels change instead of fear. Reader, I have a confession: anger is my favorite emotion. That might sound strange, but hear me out. Anger moves me. It drives me. It lets me know when something isn’t right—when a boundary has been crossed, when something needs to change. But anger is also one of the most misunderstood emotions. Men are often taught that anger is the only emotion they’re allowed to...
2 months ago • 1 min read
Your Connection Guide This Week in the Connection Codes Reader, For so many of us, sex has been shaped by messages we didn’t even realize we absorbed. I know for me, early in my marriage, sex was difficult—not because I didn’t love Wes, but because of the messages I had received about desire. Growing up in the church, I was taught that wanting sex as a single person was sinful. That messaging really messed with me because when I got married, I struggled to embrace my own desire because I had...
3 months ago • 2 min read
Your Connection Guide This Week in the Connection Codes Reader, For me, there’s something magical about the New Year. ✨ The chance to reflect, reset, and step forward with intention feels like a gift—a fresh start full of possibilities. New Year’s is tied for my top two favorite holidays (Christmas still has my heart 🎄). I love the opportunity to pause, look back, and dream about what’s ahead. Each year, Wes and I have a tradition: we go on a date to reflect on the past year. We talk about...
4 months ago • 4 min read
Your Connection Guide This Week in the Connection Codes Hey Reader, We get so used to living in pain that sometimes we don’t even recognize it anymore. It becomes our normal—a constant hum in the background of our lives. We convince ourselves that change isn’t possible, that this is just the way it has to be. But what if that isn’t true? 😮 This week’s episode is all about challenging that belief and opening your mind to what’s possible. 🌟 Phyllis shares a powerful moment from this past year...
5 months ago • 2 min read
Your Connection Guide This Week in the Connection Codes Have you ever judged someone for being angry, without realizing what’s really going on beneath the surface? I know I have. I can think of times when I saw someone’s anger and thought, Why can’t they just calm down? But here’s the thing: anger often masks a deeper emotion—hurt. When we only try to stop the anger, we miss the chance to get to the core of what’s really happening. We miss the chance to create lasting change. But when we can...
5 months ago • 2 min read