Reader,

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I found it an hour before going on stage.
A lump.

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I was about to speak at a dream event, with another two full days of back-to-back events ahead of me, including two presentations.
And I made the split-second decision…
Just ignore it.

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There was nothing I could do about it in that moment, right?
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But the fear sat heavy in my chest like a weight.
And I told no one. (Sorry, Mom! You found out this way 🙈)

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The first day, I was able to talk myself off the ledge, but by the end of the next day, my brain was flooded. Every other thought I had went back to the possibilities of "What if?"

I struggled to focus.

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Ignoring what I was feeling didn't weaken the emotion... it intensified it.
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So, I did what I knew best to do. Wes and I ordered tacos and pulled out the Core Emotion Wheel. Within minutes of naming my fear out loud… I felt my insides soften.
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It didn’t vanish- but it wasn’t suffocating anymore.

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My brain could make space to think about other things.
My body relaxed.
My voice came back.

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I had been stuffing the fear. And through the stuffing, it became bigger... consuming.

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And that’s what this week’s podcast is about:
​What happens when we don’t name what we feel.

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Phyllis shares her own story- years of stuffing anger, until it started affecting her health in ways she couldn’t ignore. She talks about the need to get to the very root of the emotion to begin repairing.

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Dr. Glenn explains what actually happens in our bodies when emotions get trapped inside. And how the sooner you get to it, the less the roots can embed.

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The truth is: emotions don’t disappear.
They go deeper.​
And the longer we stuff them, the louder they get.

You don’t have to fix everything overnight.
But you do have to start.

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🎧 Click here to listen on YouTube!​

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Or click on your favorite place to listen:

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💡 Here’s something to reflect on:

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What have you been stuffing lately?
Sadness? Fear? Anger?
What would shift if you simply said it out loud… and let someone *safe* hear it with you?

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That’s the beauty of co-regulation.
You don’t have to carry it alone.
And often, the act of being heard and validated is what brings relief. Being Ooooed changes everything.

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This episode is your gentle reminder:
Your emotions aren’t too much.
You’re just carrying them alone.

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Let’s change that.

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Let's do this.

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Ps. If you listen to the episode, you hear that I am well!!! My DNA is fun- so I already have check-ups 2x a year & luckily one was already scheduled for shortly after. 🙃 But I do want to say... you are worth being healthy. You are valuable. Process the fear, pain, shame... but also, schedule the appointment. 💛

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Disclaimer: This podcast and newsletter are co-created with a marriage and family therapist, but we are not your therapist. The information shared here is for educational and informational purposes only. If you’re experiencing overwhelming emotions or need personalized support, we encourage you to seek help from a licensed therapist or counselor or a coach. Remember, your emotions matter, and asking for help is a superpower.

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