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When Hurt Hides Behind Anger: Why Connection Starts with Vulnerability ❤️‍🩹

Published 5 months ago • 2 min read

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This Week in the Connection Codes

Have you ever judged someone for being angry, without realizing what’s really going on beneath the surface? I know I have.

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I can think of times when I saw someone’s anger and thought, Why can’t they just calm down? But here’s the thing: anger often masks a deeper emotion—hurt.

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When we only try to stop the anger, we miss the chance to get to the core of what’s really happening. We miss the chance to create lasting change. But when we can see the hurt? That’s when we can truly connect. 💡

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That’s what this week’s episode is all about.

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Dr. Glenn, Phyllis, and I dive into the deep emotional impact of hurt and how it shapes our decisions—often in ways that lead us to throw out meaningful connections. We explore the origins of the phrase “throwing the baby out with the bathwater” (yes, really!) and share stories where unresolved pain led to disconnection—from friendships to church experiences and even political divides.

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This conversation is all about staying curious, processing emotions like hurt and fear, and choosing connection over isolation.

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It’s powerful because let’s face it: sharing our hurt takes vulnerability. So many of us keep it bottled up inside, afraid to let it out.

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Even this morning, I hurt Wes. I could tell something was off, but it wasn’t easy for him to tell me he was hurt. He danced around it for a bit, but the moment he opened up? Everything shifted. Once he shared his hurt, I could meet him there. We could connect.

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That’s the magic of seeing past the anger to the hurt. It’s about creating space for honesty and vulnerability so we can hold onto what truly matters.

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🎧 Click here to listen to this week’s powerful episode on YouTube!​

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Let’s stop throwing out the good stuff when things get hard. Instead, let’s stay curious when we see anger, be a safe place to hear the hurt, and choose connection.

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🌟Highlights:

  • 00:00:00 - The Weight of Hurt Unpacked
  • 00:01:23 - Baby, Bathwater, and a Bigger Problem
  • 00:05:51 - Stories That Still Sting
  • 00:11:55 - Science Meets Hurt: The Brain’s Alarm
  • 00:13:14 - Love in the Time of Pain
  • 00:17:35 - Faith, Hurt, and a Bigger Picture
  • 00:22:28 - When Churches Stop Listening •
  • 00:24:45 - Conversations That Change Everything
  • 00:26:33 - Moving Through Pain, Step by Step
  • 00:29:02 - How Pain Creates Growth
  • 00:32:39 - Politics, Curiosity, and Connection
  • 00:35:52 - Healing Starts with Acknowledgment
  • 00:43:11 - A Final Look at Connection

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